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Meet Elaine
I was told no for most of my life...
No, college wasn’t necessary (that was for men), no, I couldn’t possibly be a police officer (I was 5’3", 105 lbs), no, it wasn’t my place to do something bold.
But I did it anyway.
I put myself through college. Then drove from Ohio to California – alone. In 1976, I joined the Oakland Police Department. That was a resounding no!
I left 13 years later as a Sergeant with more life lessons than I’ll ever need.
Leaving the Police Department wasn’t easy.
This wasn’t just a job I was stepping away from—it was a core piece of who I believed I was. Sergeant. Leader.
One of the first women to wear the badge in a department that didn’t expect me to last. Letting that go meant letting go of my status, my structure, my identity...
For the first time I found myself asking: Who am I without the title? Without the uniform? Without the constant proving? I left anyway, wondering who I was.
I became a private investigator.
Later, I moved to Kauai and eventually opened my boutique real estate brokerage.
Sure, I had doubts along the way—but I didn’t stop to examine them. I just kept pushing forward, doing what needed to be done.
As I entered retirement for the second time, despite a life full of milestones—a loving family, a successful career—I often felt lost underneath it all. When I left law enforcement and later real estate, I found myself asking a question I never expected:
Who am I now?
Undefined. Invisible, that’s how I felt. Confused, lost.
And when someone asked, “What do you do?”—the voice in my head panicked. Do? I don’t know…
That confusion shook me. But it also woke something up.
Over time, and with a lot of inner work I learned to challenge the stories I’d carried for years, and rewrote the beliefs that told me I was only as good as my role or what I achieved. Eventually, I came to see that my worth didn’t come from the title—it came from me.
Now, in my 70s, I see so many women still carrying those doubts.
Still silencing themselves with “not good enough,” negative self-talk, still shrinking when they could be shining. And no one talks about it.
That’s why I created—and am so passionate about—Yes You Can Coaching. Because I know what it feels like to lose your identity—and I know how powerful it is to find it again.
If you’re a woman 55+ standing at that same crossroads—wondering if the best of life is behind you, questioning your purpose, or feeling lost without your title—I want you to know this: It’s not too late. In fact, it’s the perfect time.
Join the Yes You Can Movement—Your next chapter gets to be yours. On your terms. Let’s write it together.
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